Make sure you have chemistry.

<body topmargin=0 leftmargin=0 marginheight=0 marginwidth=0> <table cellpadding=0 cellspacing=0 border=0 height="100%"><tr> <td valign="top" width=200 BGCOLOR="#000000" TEXT="#F7F7FF"> <div> <A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Josh Aterovis"><B><IMG SRC="57fa77d0.jpg" border=0 width="167" height="125" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></B></A></div> <div> <A HREF="news_and_events.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="News Events">News & Events</A></div> <div> <A HREF="novels__short_stories.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Writings">Writings</A></div> <div> <A HREF="order_books.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Order Books">Order Books</A></div> <div> <A HREF="blog.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Blog">Blog</A></div> <div> <A HREF="press_room.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Press Room">Press Room</A></div> <div> <A HREF="contact_the_author.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Contact the Author">Contact the Author</A></div> <div> <A HREF="art_gallery.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Art Gallery">Art Gallery</A></div> <div> <A HREF="resources_and_links.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Resources and Links">Resources and Links</A></div> <bR> <bR> </td> <td valign="top" width="100%" BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000"> <div> <FONT SIZE="5" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Courier New" ><B>Josh Aterovis</B></FONT>     |     <A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Josh Aterovis">home</A>     <A HREF="rules_of_gay_dating.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Rules of Gay Dating">Rules of Gay Dating</A></div> <div> <A HREF="be_honest.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Be honest.">Be honest.</A>   ·   <A HREF="know_who_attracts_you.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Know who attracts you.">Know who attracts you.</A>   ·   <A HREF="have_something_in_common.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Have something in common.">Have something in common.</A>   ·   <A HREF="know_your_expectations.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Know your expectations.">Know your expectations.</A>   ·   <B>Make sure you have chemistry.</B>   ·   <A HREF="have_a_plan.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Have a plan.">Have a plan.</A>   ·   <A HREF="be_interested_and_interestin.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Be interested and interesting.">Be interested and interesting.</A>   ·   <A HREF="know_what_to_avoid_and_when_.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Know what to avoid and when to bail.">Know what to avoid and when to bail.</A>   ·   <A HREF="dont_rush_it.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Dont rush it.">Don't rush it.</A>   ·   <A HREF="have_fun.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Have fun!">Have fun!</A></div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>Make sure you have chemistry.</B></div> <div> <IMG SRC="3d4ba050.gif" border=0 width="442" height="5" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> <bR> <div> Hello boy and girls! It's time to break out your chemistry sets! Today, we're going to be doing a few experiments. No, not the kind where you put Mentos in diet soda and watch it spurt like a porn star. These will be a little more cerebral, but before we get started, let's look at a couple of case scenarios.</div> <bR> <div> Case Scenario #1: You meet someone for the first time and everything just clicks. The conversation flows effortlessly and the connection is magnetic. It's almost like you've known each other for years. You can practically feel the electricity arcing between the two of you.</div> <bR> <div> Case Scenario #2: You've been honest, you know what you want, you know what you expect, and you made sure you had plenty in common. Everything looked good on paper, but it's just not working out so well in person. Conversation is an uphill battle and there's no connection at all. You might as well be on a date with your grandmother.</div> <bR> <div> So what's the difference between these two situations? What's missing in Case #2? It's that magical spark, the difference between a nice date and a hot date. In other words: Chemistry.</div> <bR> <div> No, I'm not talking about the same sort of chemistry you learned about (or slept through) in high school. I'm talking about that indefinable <I>something</I> that sometimes occurs between two people.</div> <bR> <div> I can't stress how important chemistry is in a relationship. Unfortunately, you either have it with someone or you don't. There's no manufacturing it. You can't force it. You can't make it happen. I'm sorry to report that there's no scientific formula you can follow: Just add two dabs of this cologne, wear this outfit, say these words, and <I>kapow</I>! It's impossible to even know why some people have chemistry and others don't. It's almost like some sort of psychic connection.</div> <bR> <div> There are actually several different types of chemistry. Good friends usually have some sort of chemistry, some bond beyond mere shared interests. The same is true of dating partners. There's a connection where you just hit it off with someone. As in the earlier example, conversation flows, you're flirting with each other, and there's a level of comfort and ease.</div> <bR> <div> Then there's physical chemistry, where the sparks are really flying. Some might call this physical attraction, and that's certainly a part of it, but haven't you ever been attracted to someone who "wasn't your type." You don't even know why you're so attracted to him. You're just drawn to him. That's chemistry.</div> <bR> <div> Finally, there's sexual chemistry. Sometimes, you can have one — or even both — of the other types of chemistry, but once you end up in bed, it all disappears. It's a disappointment, for sure, but what happened? Maybe you're both just bottoms — as my drag queen friends say, you're bumping pocketbooks — or maybe you don't have sexual chemistry.</div> <bR> <div> Now that we know all about chemistry, it's time for the experiments I promised earlier. Don't forget to wear your safety goggles. You don't want to get anything in your eye. It burns.</div> <bR> <div> Experiment #1: You meet someone who seems like he should be perfect for you...in theory. You talk online and seem to hit it off, you have a lot in common, and you think he's hot. Then you meet in person, and the evening fizzles out faster than a faulty bottle rocket. Should you continue seeing this guy? After all, he's hot and you have a lot in common.</div> <bR> <div> Experiment #2: You meet someone and have crazy chemistry. There are fireworks exploding like it's your own personal 4th of July, but you have absolutely nothing in common and your personalities are really not compatible. Should you continue seeing this guy? After all, you can't deny the attraction.</div> <bR> <div> Experiment #3: You meet someone and you feel instant chemistry with him, but he doesn't seem to return it. On your side, there's a great connection, you have a lot in common, and he's everything you've been looking for. On his side, nothing. Should you continue seeing this guy? After all, surely he'll come around eventually.</div> <bR> <div> The answer for all three is probably not. No one can say for sure except the two of you, but chances are, it won't work out. There's never an absolute guarantee for any relationship, but if you both feel chemistry, and all the other things we've been talking about fall into place, at least you have more going for you.</div> <bR> <div> Did you answer correctly? If so, give yourself an A+. You're now an expert on chemistry. Now get out there and start conducting your own experiments! But remember, safety first. Always wear protective gear. Until next time...Happy Dating!</div> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>